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A Message To Those Who Press Me To “Fix It” With My Family
Your “good intentions” are hurting me. It is MANIPULATION!
Things are not as they appear within my family.
The situation
I got sick and didn’t go to my family “reunion”. I wanted to see my young niece and nephew. Afterward, seemingly “innocent” messages were sent to me. Yes, I realize that cutting off contact with family members is scandalous.
And it is not just one time or one event. A wide range of people try to insist and persist in coming at me and my children to make each of us understand “their societal code”. I know this issue is something many people may struggle with or should consider more deeply. The pressure that I have experienced to obey the cultural and family code, has been intense and very painful. Often we are expected to stay in line; not cause problems; not make waves; avoid conflict. When these people are toxic, this usually means we experience pain from trying to tolerate and survive within destructive relationships.
Positive relationships and healthy, positive people allow ultimate freedom. And they are ones that you don’t feel that you want to avoid or escape from.
When anyone treats you poorly, try to protect yourself and get distance from and away from them when you can and as soon as…
