Hi Jennifer: I like what Todd is saying. I really like how caring and compassionate his words are too. I also hear and honor what you are saying. May I still tell you something? I know even the "isolated" topic of where to live is paralyzing. This popped into my mind when I read Todd's reply. It is not advice, only sharing. I have recently been tripping on this lady. She and her lifestyle make my heart sing. I think she rents above a garage but she has made it seem so lovely. On Youtube: Yazemeena Rossi, titled: Home Sweet Home. Her life has impacted me. I hope at least it is encouraging or sparks some hope and imagination for you.