Hi Shell: I am glad you found this helpful. This is what I like about this platform- the space it provides to connect and share experience. It is priceless for me to feel that I am not alone. I am sad to know that you have experienced things like this. I know you are stronger for surviving and moving forward.

Healed/on guard: yes. I think we need to keep moving forward, even one step at a time and care for ourselves.

Someone told me they think he is afraid of me because I know the truth. He cannot tolerate being exposed.

I hope you find more strength and peace each day. Is he a threat to your safety? (Physical safety. I know that all forms of harm destroy us in all ways including health/physical. Please do what you need to do to protect yourself.)

Two things: I just read Karen Nimmo's article (link below) and had an interesting exchange in the replies.

https://medium.com/on-the-couch/to-recover-from-a-traumatic-event-begin-with-7-steps-24f21208ce5

And maybe look at Shahida Arabi's book: Becoming the Narcissist's Nightmare

Thank you for reading, connecting and your kind words.