Hi Todd: Yes please do write. I would like to read your experience. Is there anything you would share about her end of life or funeral? Did you go? Was there displeasure expressed toward you from relatives and community? These are things I am thinking about. It is hostile territory for me to be around relatives and community. And I am feeling dread and anxiety because it is family reunion time of year. I have no desire to go, except that my children and I adore my niece and nephew. It is difficult to get to see them and the reunion is a "safer" place because of other people being there. The toxic adults tend to be on "better behavior". And it is heartbreaking to see the little ones caught up in the toxic mess, like I was when I was young. It is a difficult decision. But for now I feel sacrificing to see the kids is important.

"narc to be her empath" Yes, my mother used me as her servant.

I appreciate that you would connect with me and thank you for reading!