I does seem there is a freedom and awakening to feminism. If I may though point out that there are many men and women that will never process out of toxic gender and sex views.

"19th century": I do often think about timeline effect on these views. The short answer is that people are who they are no matter the time period.

harsh reality: yes sadly true.

I would say, regardless of our gender, we should value ourselves and have healthy boundaries in relationships.