I have a mother like this. I also had a Papillion that I did not have time or space to grieve for because I was living with a toxic spouse. I think people that have had a Papillion in their life know and understand each other. The look on his face and that energetic intensity embodies everything I know about my furry little guy. I hope you make quiet times and space to grieve for her and all that you have been through.
The health issues I have also experienced. I know that our emotions and stress (caused by abuse) cause physical pain and health crisis.
I hope you find freedom and peace and get away from the toxic people. Thank you for sharing your experience.