I Have Never Known A Man That Didn’t Need To Be Serviced

How will you feel when he has an affair?

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I was on the telephone with my cousin Caryn. It seems she always has a crisis. It is she that calls me and usually without much of a break in her talking. I had assumed for a while that we could have a mutual friendship. But we didn’t. She used me as much as she could. This time I suppose my issues were heavy enough that I found an opening to share.

She knew that I had finally understood that what my husband was doing was intentional and it was abuse. I confided in her. I had been gradually laying down boundaries to protect myself. And I said that I have been sleeping in another room.

She said, “Are you sure? How are you going to feel when he has an affair?” Then she said: “I have never known a man that didn’t need to be serviced.”

Let’s dissect this shall we?

• She is operating under the belief that if you want to keep a man, then you MUST “service” him.
• Is he a car? Is there a service station? No, of course not. You are the service station. He drives up and you give him his fill. You fuck him. Then he drives off. But he is tethered to you securely because you fuck him at regular intervals. Unless you don’t, then he immediately will have an affair. Right? But how much fucking must…