I have observed much more about his life and personality than I have hers. It would not be difficult for me to believe that this is an all-out scorched earth take down of her for speaking about abuse. My understanding and experience with narcissistic abuse gives me intimate understanding of people who will never allow you to have any peace or life separate from their interference and control. And as for her being abusive too. I don't know this case. But I do know what it is like to have my character, integrity and life as I knew it altered and destroyed by abusers. I know the smear campaigns and enlisting armies of people (family members, friends and neighbors) against me. And I know that we as victims are very often pushed, poked, prodded, abused and psychologically tortured. No one else can say how much one person can take. No one else can say or know how far a narcissistic abuser will go to make you crazy and push you to insanity. It is a typical tactic of narcissistic abuse - to drive you to insanity and then label you crazy and abusive. Just because someone snaps back, reacts and acts out against abuse, doesn't mean they were not provoked and pushed to that point. The whole point of narcissistic abuse is pushing you to get a reaction; feeding off of the control they feel they have over you. Is this what is happening in this case? I don't know. But Amber does. It makes me sick that the extreme misogyny, violence and hatred is directed toward the female in the relationship (and not the male). I am not surprised, but I am disturbed to see it continually.