Jennifer I am sorry you have to endure all of this. I wish I could give you a hug. I am surviving the destruction of a divorce. I was told to hire attorneys. I had two terrible ones. The first I had to fire. My ex hired a forensic accountant which forced me to have to pay for one for myself also. His inheritance was traceable. The house and three other properties are his. It is shocking. I wish I had the money that I had to pay attorneys, accountant and hotels that we had to live in. Hey, please take care of you. I know it's brutal. All I know is to survive another day. Consider doing the QDRO paperwork for him. It is an intimidating stack of papers, but it wouldn't take long to fill out the necessary portions. The processing and waiting to receive them takes forever. If you have them completed, ask him to sign and if you can mail them for him.