"lack of love": I always feel the parallels. Her essence morphs into his pursuits. Then there are likely few avenues to direct your trapped angst and emotion. Unless you completely decide to "sign off" and not care, you invest in paving roads for him. You get caught up in feeling like you have a higher sense of purpose, especially since Christianity and her husband convinced her she had no individual value. Women are dying to use their gifts and intellect. She built for him, a legacy.

Yes, and coherent is an interesting word choice. She had a purpose. What would he have been without a strong intelligent woman? The massive irony for me is that they choose strong, intelligent women; then suffocate the very thing they chose; and bottle it for their own benefit.

"demeaning and ironic": yes. I see the erasing and conscription of women.