Pravin: I can understand and honor that this is your belief and perspective. It depends on what we've learned, been taught and accept. You say, "spending energy on hating or being angry": I believe it depends on the person and where they are in their experience. For some, hate and anger may be hurting them. But for others like me, I have not been permitted to have emotion and no one cared about my emotion. I believe that it is healthy for me to feel angry. I need to be more angry about what has been done to me. Anger and hate are emotions that are not necessarily bad. And I don't think there is an equation that forgiving equals magically no emotion of hate or anger. We should feel, experience and try to understand all of our emotions and not conceal them or label them as wrong. You say, "release energy toward a goal": I can still do this if I don't forgive and when I honor and care about my emotions including anger or hate. What is the most terrible destruction and harm that you think of? Do you hate this? Does it make you angry?