Sadly, my ex's story is much like SA's. The difference is he didn't publish books and his pornography addiction and past abortion were hidden, never spoken of- ever. I have pondered what came first, his twisted mind or addictions. I do believe the damage was done by his parents and the legalism caused additional layers of destruction. He was one who required my purity, but irony is reflecting on his path. He went to a religious college. Religious legalism and teaching warped him. He despises women. All of the years of hearing how women are responsible for men's transgressions, twisted him into something horrible. He is a bigot. He is weak and feeble. He is abusive. He is a narcissist. He is a Christian.