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The Intellectual Abuser Winning the Award for Best Performance is…
the lead actor in my drama weaponizes reason and logic
It seems that everything my ex husband did was part of an act. I really cannot separate anything from this life that I think could have been genuine. Was my life really only a scripted drama? It was a lifetime built on a created image.
It was without my consent that I played a part in this drama, nor did I understand that it was one.
It’s impossible to try to untangle the webs of his behavior. So much of what he did was to control and manipulate everything, including me. He is incredibly cunning. His behaviors felt frustrating and exasperating. A few years ago, I stumbled onto an article that described his behaviors exactly. The article was about covert narcissism. Since then I have been consumed with trying to understand and unravel a lifetime.
It is mind blowing and way beyond shocking to suddenly understand that the person in your house has always made you play the fool and hurts you because they can.
Well versed
One of the things that drew me in initially was his demonstration of intellect and emotional intelligence. I was inside the walls of religion then, so he also showed me a good range and grasp of his study in this realm. He could…
