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There is a Squatter in Her House, but She Thinks He Loves Her
users, takers, giving and the urgency of caring for ourselves
My ex is fully moving into his girlfriend’s house. Could he have married already? Possibly. That is a tough call for him. He needs marriage for entrapment. But he also does not want her to have control of or be able to touch his money. His attitude is “mine, mine, mine”. It is the cliché: What’s mine is mine and what’s yours is mine.
He is letting go of his hovel. He tried to get my son to take it. He said, “I might need somewhere to go when she kicks me out.” Wow. Is he not feeling so good about his game? No, this is his insecurity speaking. He eternally sees himself as the victim.
When he was married to me he bought an old shack by a small lake. Then he bought farmland. He wanted to have another place that he could run off to and spend his time. I think it has to do with an unquenchable restlessness in him. He has to have some thing at all times to help him drown out whatever he is running from within himself. I also suspect that he tries to make himself distant and unavailable because he has found that this draws a woman to him because it causes her to feel some form of loss and neglect. I think that when he begins to devalue a woman, he finds another place to go. It is a fuck you mentality. He is always working to maintain…
