This is so well done Laura. I agree with your points. Your personal examples make this even stronger. I have felt insecure, unseen and that I never fit in. In school I connected with certain boys, but I can't remember any girls ever connecting with me or having true connection with them. It is harmful and painful to be the odd one that doesn't belong.
Your article is so thought provoking and deep. I love the deeper dive in to all of the details. Your writing and perspective is so good on many levels. Your assessment and points align with who I believe Taylor to be (from what I know about her and her work). And yes, I really love her work, artistry and performances. I am a fan.