This is the same pattern of behaviors with my mother. She is more "subtle" (covert). She needs to maintain her posh public persona. She would be embarrassed if others thought she was, well who she really is. I need to move from where I am living. I don't have peace living where she can get to me.

I have to say that the distance and space (going no contact) from the insanity of my family members is nearly indescribable and amazing for my health. I really couldn't see how bad it was and how crazy the whole situation is until I removed myself from all of it. I see so much more clearly. I absolutely believe you have to be safe and far out of their reach to heal and have the kind of life you need and deserve. I feel so grateful that I can. So many people never get away from the poison and find that space and freedom.