My Ex Continues Causing Interference: Where is our Safe Place?

Josie Quinn
14 min readJul 11, 2023

harassment, bullying, stalking and the evil of control addiction

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  • *trigger warning: words expressing abuse, killing

At the end of the divorce process, my attorney informed me that my soon to be ex, has the right to live his life without my interference. It seemed halting to me. It seems like a warning with an assumption that I would pursue retaliation.

With the meaning of retaliation being ‘returning like for like’, ‘doing what has been done to me’: If I did that, I would be in jail.

Why did she say that? Is this something divorce attorneys commonly instruct clients? I don’t know if he got the same message. Likely not because his attorney didn’t seem to have a clue about much throughout the process. He has an extremely underpaid legal assistant. I believe she did all of the work and he made the appearances and pocketed the money.

But what about me?

The injustice continues and what recourse do I have? I have been focused on healing and the aftermath of the atomic bomb that left mine and my children's lives devastated. The point of no return was when I saw what could not be unseen. I understood clearly for the first time that he is a malignant narcissist, that his behaviors were intentional, that he was using the…