Speaking of pyro., he is the same dude that lights up fireworks in his driveway that landed on my roof, on my car and another that missed my head by millimeters and landed at my feet.

Your empathy is amazing. I appreciate that you would value my feelings and safety in this situation. Yes, threatening situations are a very serious thing. Our culture teaches us to hold it in and keep going.

Yes, I can only imagine how difficult and intense it is to deal with these people in your work. Safety plan: I will think about this. I have tried to work with a domestic violence agency previously for my own circumstance. The results were not positive. I am glad that your safety plan works and that you are focused in caring for yourself. No apologies necessary. I am grateful for your perspective.

Don't do as you say/do: I may be far ahead of you in my wishful thinking. Meaning I may be by far the worst in influence and suggestions.