Yes Karen, I can confirm what you are saying. My ex found his next victim very fast via a high compatibility dating site. He has serious and complex issues. A dating match is the perfect doorway to help him bypass and hide not only his social inhibitions but also other issues. To your point: I would say that he does think that he wants to be loved. He will never be anything other than abusive. He is not capable of love. Knowing people like my ex roam the earth freely, I would always argue for relationship in the form of friendship for a significant amount of time rather than the dating zone.