You are genuinely intuitive in seeing so much depth. I love the feeling of connection and understanding (that you give). It sounds like you understand narcissistic abuse.

mob mentality: yes, I have been thinking about how this mentality works. They see me as weak without a man, and therefore a target.

Yes, "the" ex did begin to recruit neighbors with his tragic story of woe and my "terribleness", as soon as I left. They are his flying monkeys. He would not be friends or spend time with any neighbor, until I got away from him.

Your encouragement, compassion and positive energy are great! Thank you!